If we have had a close call or an accident, with such a turn, we tend to become even more cautious about making left turns. When we start driving a car, we learn to gauge how far off an oncoming car needs to be before we try to make a left turn in front of it. This is just one example of the many things that are implanted in this mental library at an early age.Īs we get older, we continue to add to this collection of information. The concept that the stove is hot and can cause pain is implanted in their belief system, which constantly reminds them that there is an element of danger attached to that appliance.
When a child burns his or her hands on a stove, they tend to stay away for it for a while to avoid having that experience again. This is based on the information we begin implanting in our “belief system” from the time we are born. We all tend to make decisions based on past experiences.
The reason this happens is fairly simple to explain. Memories of the problems of that previous marriage can often get in the way of finding love again after a divorce. A simple statement that person makes can take them back to something that they had heard from their former partner, which might cause them to take a step back and reconsider pursuing this new relationship. Many divorced people have an unconscious tendency to hear the “voice” of their previous spouse in the words shared by a new person they are dating. Some quickly jump back into the dating pool, while others are a bit more cautious, for fear of being hurt again.
The thought of finding love again after a divorce is the dream of many who experience the breakup of a marriage.
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